If an adult pats a girl on the head and says, "There, there--you don't have to have sex if you're immature and you're not ready yet," that's not a viable alternative. That's an insult.
"Well-meaning experts and parents say that they understand kids' wanting to be 'bad' instead of 'good.' Yet this reversal of adults' expectations is often experienced not as a gift of freedom but a new kind of oppression."
— From The Good Girl Revolution